Generally according to the Islamic point of view, Mumin is a term used for true Muslim. In a Hadith, it was once asked from Rasulullah (SAW):“How will I know that I have become a Mumin?” Rasulullah (SAW) answered: “When your heart feels satisfied because of any of your good act and mourns about any of your wrong doing, then know, you have become a true Muslim (i.e., Mumin). Actually to us both of the terms look alike, but keep in mind they aren’t, for you shall also see the difference from Al-Quran. Muslim is a person who embraces Islam by saying Kalima Tayyaba and with a keen belief that Allah is one; no God except Him and Muhammad (S.A.W) is His last Apostle. Whereas a person becomes Mumin when this knowledge penetrates deep into his mind, heart and soul.
Allah Almighty has described 13 main qualities of such dignified persons inSurah Al- Furqan they are as under:
1) Believer of Allah: Such persons believe in Allah Almighty and declare no assistant with Him whatsoever. We have seen many people saying and believing in Allah fully yet whenever they are in trouble they seek help from others. This is in fact Shirk that has been entailed in the last sermon of Rasulullah (SAW). A Mumin turns only to Allah for help and demands only from Him. I shall quote here words of Hadith Qudsi, “There is no such thing that any person can give you unless Allah imputes and no such thing any person can take away from you unless Allah wills. No greatness of any person, whatsoever, is greater than that of Allah and none can save you from evil doings except His might”.
2) Humble: Another quality of such persons is that they are humble (i.e., free from any sort of pride and arrogance). They walk very humbly, talk humbly hence humbleness is a part of their life. Pride is something that Allah has forbidden upon humanity, it’s in a Hadith Qudsi, “Pride is my cloak, and whosoever tries to steal it from me, I shall be at war with him”.
3) Saying Salaam: Here salaam not only represents saying salaam to each other in normal course of life but whenever such persons face a situation where an ignorant is trying to have a dispute with them over any matter, they just say salaam and move forward. (Surah Al Furqan Ayah: 63). Therefore, it clearly shows that such persons don’t indulge themselves in futile discussions.
4) Praying after mid night: Though this is not compulsory for every person but whosoever does it with beat intentions may have reward for it, Insha Allah. The Mu’mineen or Ibaad-al- Rahman have the quality that they perform prayers after midnight (i.e., Tahajud). Allah says in Surah al Furqan, “The pious followers of Allah are those who get up in the middle of the night and pray, when all the world is sound asleep”
5) Chary towards expenses: Such persons are not extravagant rather chary. For an extravagant person, it is said, “An extravagant is brother of Satan”. Some people believe that Allah gives money to spend hence they keep on spending it uselessly. Yes that is true that Allah gives money to a person to spend on himself and his family but not extravagantly, rather a person should be cautious in doing so, he should take care of the money given to him, he should neither be a closefisted person nor an extravagant but a careful person.
6) Avoid shirk: Followers of Allah Almighty abstain from Shirk. That is the subject matter of Islam and if one can’t follow that, he shall not be called a Muslim. Now normally there are two major kinds of Shirk, Shirk-e- jali and Shirk-e-khafi. Shirk-e-jali means directly associate a partner with Allah and Shirk-e-khafi means to involve one self in such acts so as to please other persons. Note that a wife can do anything to please her husband but for other persons doing something to get their attention also comes in the category of Shirk-e-khafi.
7) Don’t kill anyone unjustly: Muslims are world wide seen as terrorist and Islam a terrorist religion, well here is an answer for that. Allah Almighty says in Al-Quran that the followers of Allah don’t kill anyone unjustly because they know that whosoever does that (i.e., kills another person unjustly or a Mumin unjustly), he abodes in hell where he shall dwell forever.
8) Avoid adultery: Allah explains another unique quality of His followers that they avoid adultery and save themselves from it because they know that it is such a ribald sin that has no chances of apologies only and only punishment. For an apology it is necessary that the loss be fulfilled and in adultery loss can never be fulfilled.
9) Avoid lying and Fraud: Followers of Allah avoid lying and fraud and don’t go near the evil or places where evil dwells. Once a person came to Rasulullah (SAW) and asked Him some questions:
The Person asked: “Is it possible for a Muslim to drink?”
Rasulullah (SAW) answered: “Yes, it is possible.”
The Person asked: “Is it possible for a Muslim to steal?”
Rasulullah (SAW) answered: “Yes, it is.”
The Person asked: “Is it possible for a Muslim to lie?”
Rasulullah (SAW) answered: “Never, a Muslim may be weak of Imaan and may indulge himself in other such acts but he can never lie to anyone.”
10) Noble and generous: Followers of Allah are very noble and generous that if they ever pass by evil gatherings, they just seek their Lord’s refuge and move on. But they never feel hatred for the ones who are in such gatherings nor do they degrade such persons in fact they pray for them to be shown guidance by Allah.
11) Use their senses: Followers of Allah have the quality that whenever they are told orders of Allah, they listen to it keenly and then follow it. They don’t indulge themselves in vague questioning neither do they ask for proof that world is going such like why should we be different. Because they know that Muslims are given just a small portion of knowledge and that can be compared to give answers for everything.
12) Worry about family: The followers of Allah always worry about their families. They not only themselves follow the straight path but also make their children follow the straight path and often pray for them to be pious as well.
13) Fear Allah and worry about hereafter: The followers of Allah fear from Allah every time and keep worrying about hereafter. They keep themselves indulge in such acts that are helpful for their hereafter. They often pray from their Lord, “Oh Allah, bless us in this worldly life as well as save us from the hell fire in hereafter” (Aameen)
These are some of the basic qualities that Quran has listed in Surah Al Furqan.”May Allah Almighty make us all follow such straight path and make each of us have these qualities (Aameen).”
Source: http://amuslimsistermaria200327.wordpress.com/2009/06/09/13-qualities-of-a-muslim/
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Thursday, 26 April 2012
Reminiscence
Used to recite this everyday after prayers.
Now, I miss this zikir a lot and It has it own impact in my life.
Wednesday, 25 April 2012
People's feelings.
Respect people's feelings. Even if it doesn't mean anything to you, it could mean everything to them.
Tuesday, 24 April 2012
Past & Future
A troubled past shouldn't automatically mean a troubled future.
Don't look back Don't look back on anything with regret, just treat it as an important life experience. Negative people People will always try to be negative, all you can do is continue smiling and stay positive. Good Things Good things come to those who wait, but great things come to those who go out there and get it. Best Friends A best friend isn't someone who's just always there for you. It's someone who understands you a bit more than you understand yourself. Friend I would rather be just friends forever then be your girlfriend and break up, then lose you all together. Berhenti Kita tak boleh hentikan orang mengata kita, tapi kita boleh berhenti daripada mengata orang lain :) Friday, 20 April 2012
13 Qualities Of A Musli
How to be a good muslim wife. I wanna be a great wife to my husband and a humble 'Abid to Allah
Now just like I've said to the husbands, I will say to the wives. If you are not following most of the things that are written in this article then you are simply a bad wife. Learn from the article that I'm sharing with you and make it your goal to be the best wife you can possibly be. And fear Allah because not fulfilling your obligations as a wife is a sin. And Allah knows best. I pray to Allah to make us all righteous wives and husbands.
The link to the article is here: How to be a good Muslim Wife As women, we desire to have a deep emotional bond with our spouse. We want to be loved and adored. Our inner core is filled with contentment and happiness when we feel understood and appreciated. Making a wish list of traits we want our husband to have is effortless, but bringing out the best in him takes a lot of nurturing. We need to nourish our spouse daily with love, support and understanding. As a therapist, I have seen numerous men who are disappointed in their marriages. Many are frustrated and confused. Here are some suggestions on improving your marriage. Men’s Top 6 Requests of Their Wives
The most important aspect of a marriage is friendship. When there is friendship, any obstacle can be overcome. In the Quran, Allah refers to a man’s wife as his girlfriend in Surah Abasa 80:36 which reveals the type of relationship we need to have with our spouse. John Gottman, a psychologist who specializes in marriage stability in the States, did a study on married couples and found the one element which determines whether or not couples stay together is friendship. Look at the beautiful examples of Khadija and Aisha (RA) and how they showered the Prophet (peace and salat upon him) with love, providing him with true companionship. Think about your best friend and how he or she became so special in your life. It probably had a lot to do with the amount of time and effort he or she made to get to know you and spend time with you. When was the last time you and your spouse had quality time together where the focus was just on having fun and sharing? An easy way to get started is:
In order to create or strengthen friendship in marriage, try doing the following:
The need for men to be respected is so strong that when they are given ample respect, they flourish like a plant that has just been watered. When they are deprived of the respect, they wilt and harbor feelings of sadness and resentment. Many times women put a lot of time and effort in keeping the house clean, taking care of the kids and fulfilling all the “duties”, but because they fall short in showing their husbands respect, the husbands will shut down and not show appreciation for all that she has done. It is critical to be sensitive towards men and their feelings. Even though men may not be as expressive, they can and do get hurt and it is much harder for them to recover from hurt feelings. Here are some ways to show respect:
Intimacy brings about a whole lot of mixed emotions. Some sisters are not interested at all, some can never get enough and others seem to use it as a way to manipulate their husbands. There really needs to be some frank talk about this subject because I have seen many marriages suffer and fall apart due to problems of intimacy. Sisters, if you withhold sex from your spouse as either a way to get back at him or to control him, you are making a HUGE MISTAKE. Sex is not meant to be a manipulative tool; rather it is a way to bring a necessary fulfillment to you and your spouse. I have had therapy sessions with numerous men who are addicted to porn because their wives show no interest in them or in sex. Men will feel the urge to fulfill their physical needs and if their wife is never available or interested, then some men will be tempted to either get a second wife or pursue haram (forbidden) avenues. That is why it’s of paramount importance for women to learn how to satisfy their husbands and to be available for them. Here are some suggestions to improve your intimate relations:
When a man gets married he enjoys being the center of his wife’s life. He loves all the attention, the special meals and having his wife exclusively to himself. Once children appear in the picture, everything changes for the man. Not only is he not center stage – he is not even on stage! He sees his wife completely absorbed with the new baby and as much as he loves and adores the child, he simply doesn’t want to be replaced by him. There are so many times that men are made to feel neglected. Whether it’s because of the newborn baby, her demanding job or her never ending list of errands and voluntarism, men are being overlooked and pushed aside. Each man is craving his wife’s attention. The woman that knows how to shower her man with attention and appreciation will win his heart. In my practice, working with couples, I have discovered that most people either have no idea how to show appreciation or they mistakenly show it the way they would like to receive it. So here are some practical and easy ways to show appreciation to your husband:
Men are exposed to so many attractive women at work, at school, in the malls, on billboards, magazines and T.V. so in order to strengthen them to lower their gaze they need to have something worthwhile to come home to at night. You don’t have to be a supermodel to look presentable to your husband. Just spend a few minutes to fix your hair and accentuate your best assets. Keep in mind sisters, that many times when husbands come home from a long day at work they may not immediatly notice your effort to dress up for him, so gently draw his attention to your new dress, haircut or makeup and let him know you did it just for him. Make Him Feel Desired When was the last time you gave a compliment to your husband? And I’m not referring to compliments on how well he fixed the leaky faucet. I mean a compliment on his looks or personality that will bring on a genuine smile. It seems that the more comfortable we are with someone, the less polite and gracious we become. Does that make any sense? Each person desires attention and wants to feel attractive. The need to feel attractive increases as men age, they require more assurance that they are still desirable and worthwhile. There are two ways to make a man feel attractive: either tell him by giving him a compliment or show him that you are attracted to him. Here are some ways to show your attraction to your husband:
Variety is always desirable. We enjoy an array of meals, an assortment of clothes and a selection of entertainment. This yearning for variety can be fulfilled even in marriage. Here are some simple measures you can take to add a little zest and variety to yourself.
Source: http://www.islamicexperiences.com/2010/11/how-to-be-good-muslim-wife.html A successful Muslim husband isn’t: A successful Muslim husband isn’t:1. A Muslim husband is not stingy when it comes to money and he spends freely on his wife and children. “The best charity is that which comes from one when he is wealthy and begins with those whom you are responsible to support.” (Bukhari). A Successful Muslim Husband is:2. A good Muslim husband helps his wife out around the house with the household chores. Many husbands believe that housework is only for women and think that it’s beneath them to help their wives with the household chores. However, this couldn’t be further from the truth. In fact, when a wife sees that her husband takes the responsibility to help her with the housework, she grows in admiration and respect for him and can’t help but want to do as much as she can to please him. This doesn’t mean that a husband should be expected to work all day long and then come home and cook and clean and do the laundry while his wife has been home all day doing nothing. However, there is nothing wrong with him giving a helping hand to his wife whenever it is needed or in him taking care of his own needs –such as mending his own clothes, especially and particularly, if his wife is busy with the children or with other tasks, or is sick, pregnant or just needs a break from the work in the house. “He (Muhammad) used to tend to the work of his family.” (Bukhari). 3. A Muslim husband accepts his wife’s inconsistencies and her faults and he doesn’t try to make her personality like his, because to do so would break her spirit. Too often, men try to mold women’s personalities into their own image. This is a mistake that often leads to resentment and anger on the woman’s part. It is also dangerous because it erodes her self- esteem and destroys her individuality. Instead, he should be tolerant and respect her unique feminine nature. If there is an element of her personality that he dislikes, it is on him to change himself or his outlook but he should not try to change her personality. This, however, does not apply to religious issues such as hijab, salat, obedience to the husband or other issues that have been made incumbent on her by the Shariah. “No male believer is to hate a female believer. If he hates a trait in her then let him be pleased with another trait.” (Muslim). “Woman is like a rib: If you try to straighten it out you will break it.” (Al-Bukhari/Muslim). “Treat women kindly, for woman was created from a rib. The part of it that is most bent is the top. If you try to straighten it you will break it, and if you leave it alone it will remain bent. So treat women kindly.” (Bukhari/Muslim). 4. A good Muslim husband doesn’t tell his bedroom secrets. “The most evil of people in the sight of Allah on the Day of Judgment will be a man who was intimate with his wife and then went and told others about her secrets.” (Muslim). 5. A good Muslim husband doesn’t neglect his appearance and he keeps himself physically fit. It is not only an obligation on the Muslim woman to keep herself looking and smelling good for her husband, but it is also an obligation on the husband as well to set the example and keep himself looking good for his wife. In fact, I believe that in most cases it is the husband who sets the tone in the house in this area because if his wife sees that her husband is going to a lot of extra trouble to keep himself looking good, then more than likely she will also try to keep herself looking good for him. In this way both of them are complementing each other and this helps to keep their marriage fresh and alive. He should also exercise regularly and not allow himself to become over-weight and out of shape. At home, he should dress neatly, make sure that his hair is combed and that his general appearance is clean. “Whoever has hair let him look after it properly.” (Abu Dawud – Allaahu ‘alam of the authenticity of this hadith) “If it were not for the fact that I did not want to overburden my Ummah, I would have ordered them to use the siwak before every prayer.” (Bukhari/Muslim). “O children of Adam! Wear your beautiful apparel at every time and place….” (Quran 7: 31-32).
SOURCE:http://theauthenticbase.wordpress.com/2010/02/19/5-secrets-of-a-successful-muslim-husband/ Masha Allah :) NK ANAK MACAM NI BOLEH? :( MOTIVATE DIRI SENDIRI Wanita menangis PART 1 PART 2 PART 3
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