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Friday, 20 April 2012

How to deal with Annoying People

The showoff

This person who won't be asking for money. This person will never cease to brag about what he/she has, what she's/he's done, or with whom she's/he's done it. She/He'll demand that you pay attention to her/his stories, actions or possessions.

Solution: Fundamentally, she/he's insecure and that's why she/he needs you to seem interested. For her/him, the only way to be worth something is to surpass others in the fields where she/he can indeed outshine them. So you can brush her/him off and tell her/him how you feel about this annoying habit of her/his, but it will hurt her/his feelings. Do so only if she/he isn't a good friend otherwise.

The motor mouth

The great thing about being a man is that they can be among their male friends and not have to talk about anything irrelevant. But there are guys or GIRLS who suffer from this troubled personality. They talk and talk and talk and never shut up. They'll tell you about their leaky faucets, marital problems, and painful hemorrhoids. You really don't need that much information.

Solution: The easy solution is to nod and say uh-huh every once in a while to show that you're listening. Whilst you do this, think about what kind of hamburger you're going to order or how you're going to manage your next mortgage payment. Since the motor mouth is harmless, doing this will get you through the torture without making him an enemy.

The rumor mill

This annoying person will usually wind up being a woman, as guys are by and large not known gossips. Similar to the Motor Mouth, the Rumor Mill elevates yakking to an art form, by only talking about others.

Solution: Dealing with this person must be done preemptively. You have to squash the rumors before they can be used by this person as ammo and never give this chatterbox any personal information that could be spurred into gossip about you.

The opportunist

This person has an agenda. She/He may hang around you, pretend to be your friend,BUT deep down she/he is playing an angle. Perhaps she/he has her/his eye on your BOYFRIEND/girlfriend or maybe SHE/he just likes to seek attention.

Solution: What you can do is shroud yourself in secrecy, and not let him know what's happening in your life so that he can't take advantage of it. If things go south, simply exclude him from your inner circle.

The thug

The proverbial bully has a huge inferiority complex. She/He'll make jokes about you, get you to do things for her/him without any possibility of reward, and amuse herself/himself with your pratfalls. She/He doesn't necessarily have anything to brag about so she/ he'll entertain herself/himself by tormenting those around her/him.

Solution: You have to realize that the Thug feeds on weakness. Like any other living organism, if you take away the nutrients, he will die. When you first realize that the person is a bully, take an immediate stand. They are like those old toy cars that drove around on their own but changed direction when faced with an obstacle. As soon as you identify the signs, set him straight and tell him you're not a pushover.

The knower of all things

Some folks are just so cocky that they think they know everything. In fact, and I'm sure you'll agree, they're the ones who are most often wrong. The reason is they are so sure of their own invulnerability that they never bother to check the facts. Only, you watch the Discovery Channel and know that aliens did not build the pyramids.

Solution: Never say: "you're wrong." Don't sink to the depths of the am-too/are-not variety. Tell him that you disagree and why. Point out explicit reasons with verifiable evidence that refute his position. Do so politely and without taking pleasure in it -- not noticeable delight anyway.

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